Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast: the Self-Love Podcast for Women
#77: Therapy Update + Thoughts on Marriage

#77: Therapy Update + Thoughts on Marriage

August 4, 2021

In this personal episode, Mary shares some things she's learned in therapy and how it's helped her overcome childhood traumas. Part of why she started therapy in the first place was to conquer her fear of commitment, especially when it comes to marriage. Mary talks about...

  • why marriage used to terrify her

  • how her therapist helped her overcome those fears

  • other lessons learned in therapy including self-talk, self-trust, and self-empowerment

If you want an accessible and affordable way to see a therapist, check out BetterHelp! Full disclosure: I'm an affiliate because I LOVE their platform and have had an incredible experience with my therapist. I wouldn't have been able to do therapy without BetterHelp (especially during the pandemic)!

Here's a link to a 2-week free therapy trial: betterhelp.com/mcot

#76: Confidence Comes From Clarity

#76: Confidence Comes From Clarity

July 28, 2021

In this episode, Mary explains how confidence comes from CLARITY and how you can gain more clarity in your life. You will learn...

  • A trick to help you stop comparing yourself to others

  • 3 questions to ask yourself to gain more clarity (and therefore, more confidence)

  • How to figure out what you really, really want in life

Remember: you don't need certainty in your life; you need clarity. Clarity is the root of self-confidence.

If you found this episode inspiring, make sure to take a screenshot and share it on your Instagram stories so we can see!

And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

#75: The Origins of Intuitive Eating with Elyse Resch

#75: The Origins of Intuitive Eating with Elyse Resch

July 21, 2021

In this episode Mary interviews the co-author of the original Intuitive Eating book!! She is so beyond honored to be able to speak with Elyse about how Intuitive Eating (IE), the concept and book, came to be starting in the early 1990s.

This episode is for anyone who's (re)learning how to eat intuitively and wants deeper insight into the practice.

You will learn about...

  • How IE has evolved over the past 26 years and why it's gained popularity in recent years

  • The 10 Principles of Intuitive Eating (and which one is the most challenging)

  • The biggest criticisms of IE (and why they're plain WRONG)

  • How to instill IE into teenagers using adolescent psychology

Remember: your body has an innate wisdom that goes far beyond diet culture and beauty standards. Intuitive eating is about tapping into that wisdom, and learning to trust your body again.

Elyse Resch, MS, RDN, CEDRD-S, Fiaedp, FADA, FAND, is a nutrition therapist in private practice in Beverly Hills, California, with thirty-nine years of experience, specializing in eating disorders, Intuitive Eating, and Health at Every Size. She is the co-author of Intuitive Eating, now in its 4th edition, the Intuitive Eating Workbook, and The Intuitive Eating Card Deck—50 Bite-Sized Ways to Make Peace with Food (upcoming, 2021). Elyse is also the author of The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens and The Intuitive Eating Journal—Your Guided Journey for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food (upcoming, 2021), and a chapter contributor to The Handbook of Positive Body Image and Embodiment. She has published journal articles, print articles, and blog posts. Elyse does regular speaking engagements, podcasts, and extensive media interviews. Her work has been profiled on NPR, CNN, KABC, NBC, KTTV, Los Angeles Times, AP Press, KFI Radio, The New York Times, USA Today, and the Huffington Post, among others. Elyse is nationally known for her work in helping patients break free from diet culture through the Intuitive Eating process. She supervises and trains health professionals, is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Supervisor, a Fellow of the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Fellow of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. Her philosophy embraces the goal of developing body liberation, with the belief that all bodies deserve dignity, and reconnecting with one’s internal wisdom about eating.

Mentioned in This Episode...

Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch

The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens by Elyse Resch

The Intuitive Eating Journal by Elyse Resch

The Intuitive Eating Card Deck by Elyse Resch and Evelyn Tribole

The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor

Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Sabrina Strings

 

https://elyseresch.com/

https://www.intuitiveeating.org/

Follow Elyse on IG: @elyseresch

 

#74: Afraid of Gaining Weight? Listen to this.

#74: Afraid of Gaining Weight? Listen to this.

July 14, 2021

In this solo episode Mary addresses 3 common fears (or myths) surrounding weight gain inlcuding:

"Gaining weight is unhealthy, and losing weight will make you healthier." "If I gain weight, then I won't be attractive (and no one will like me and I'll die alone)." "Gaining weight means you've 'given up on yourself,' 'let yourself go,' or 'gotten lazy.'"

These are not true and in this episode, Mary explains why.

Note: in this episode, Mary reads to you directly from her book, The Gift of Self-Love. If you want more tools for body-image healing and confidence building, you can get this self-love workbook on her website or anywhere books are sold.

#73: Healing from Toxic Relationships, Embracing Sobriety, and Growing Up Asian-American with Kelly U

#73: Healing from Toxic Relationships, Embracing Sobriety, and Growing Up Asian-American with Kelly U

July 7, 2021

In this interview Mary is joined by her friend Kelly Uchima (@kellyu) to have a deep conversation about recovering from anorexia, addiction, binge eating, codependency, and toxic relationships. Kelly is also Asian American, so she shares the nuances of growing up with body-image struggles while being a person of color.

You will learn...

  • the warning signs and red flags of toxic relationships (we're talking like, narcisstic abuse)

  • why you can get addicted to pretty much anything (and how to break free)

  • what perfectionism, eating disorders, addiction, and toxic relationships all have in common...

This is a rich, raw, and real conversation filled with true vulnerability and authentic storytelling. Please make sure to let us know how you like it by tagging @maryspodcast and @kellyu in your IG stories!

Kelly U (@kellyu) is incredibly passionate about breaking the stigma on mental health. She created and coined the Instagram and Youtube series, Therapy Thursday, to share just how beautiful and meaningful connecting with the most raw, vulnerable parts of yourself can be. Kelly aspires to inspire those who struggle with their relationship with their bodies, food, trauma and recovery. She has overcome eating disorders, anxiety and depression and is grateful to share her journey and help others to help themselves.

Follow Kelly on the Gram: https://www.instagram.com/_kellyu/ https://www.instagram.com/therapythursday_/

Listen to Kelly's new podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/68zImlmerxtNeVN0XUHoeE

#72: Stop Trying to Lose Weight (A Pep Talk)

#72: Stop Trying to Lose Weight (A Pep Talk)

June 30, 2021

In this solo episode, I talk about the impacts of trying to lose weight and how dieting affects our bodies.

You will learn...

  • What is the "rebound effect" that happens when you diet

  • The impact of our intention to lose weight

  • How your body responds to restriction

Remember: :No matter what, no matter how I feel today, I will not starve myself."

 

Get my new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide!

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#71: 6 Signs of Self-Confidence

#71: 6 Signs of Self-Confidence

June 23, 2021

Confidence is about owning who you are, whether you like how you look or not. Being pretty is not a prerequisite for confidence. Being accomplished is not a prerequisite for confidence. Being perfect is not a prerequisite for confidence. Confidence is a mindset.

In this episode Mary explains what a mindset of self-confidence is and 6 traits that can build, strengthen, and display confidence.

Here's a sneak peek into the 6 signs of self-confidence:

  1. You do not let your _ ruin your _ experience.

  2. You approach any struggle with __.

  3. You __ yourself and others.

  4. Other people's success __ you.

  5. You don't take things ___.

  6. You use your __.

Can you fill in these blanks?? Let us know!!

And make sure to get a copy of The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide!

#70: Interviewing My Sister!

#70: Interviewing My Sister!

June 16, 2021

This is an episode that's been a long time coming! Mary interviews her 13-year-old sister Ilana! In this heartfelt conversation, Mary and Ilana talk about...

  • Ilana's top 3 styling tips

  • how they maintain such a close relationship despite their 10-year age gap

  • how adults can support middle schoolers' mental health

  • their thoughts on Gen Zers

  • ... and so much more!

If you are a sibling, auntie, parent, or guardian, we hope this conversation warms your heart and helps you remember what it was like to be 13!

And feel free to take a screenshot of the episode and tag @maryspodcast in your IG stories!

Mentioned in This Episode...
Mary's TEDx Talk: https://youtu.bhttps://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybge/DoDzwM0gybg
Katie Chock's TEDx Talk on Battling the Toxic Male Nerd Culture: https://www.ted.com/talks/katie_chock_battling_the_toxic_male_nerd_culture
Ilana's favorite anime: Jibaku Shounen Hanako-kun

#69: Is Diet Culture a Cult? with Amanda Montell

#69: Is Diet Culture a Cult? with Amanda Montell

June 9, 2021

I couldn't wait to release this episode with Amanda Montell, a feminist sociolinguist, author of 2 books, and all-out empowering human! This educational episode explores the dynamics between feminism, cults, and the language we use.

You will learn...

  • the major warning signs of a cult (and why it's so easy to fall into one)

  • how modern-day language oppresses women and marginalized people

  • why sociolinguistics is important to feminism (and why you should care too!)

Amanda Montell is a writer, linguist, former beauty editor, and author of two books: Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language (Harper Wave, 2019), which she is currently developing for television with FX, and Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism (forthcoming June 15, 2021). Amanda's other writing has appeared in Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Nylon, and The Rumpus, among others, and she currently resides in Los Angeles.

Get Worldslut here: https://amzn.to/3cIziZg
Get Amanda's new book, Cultish, here: https://amzn.to/3cIy0O3

And take a screenshot of this podcast episode to share on your IG stories! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @amanda_montell so that we can see that you're enjoying this conversation!

#68: Overcome Negative Thoughts with This 2-Minute Meditation

#68: Overcome Negative Thoughts with This 2-Minute Meditation

June 2, 2021

In this 10-minute episode, Mary shares a mini meditation that will help you break any negative thought patterns. This evidence-based technique is especially helpful when it comes to bad body-image thoughts because it incorporates mindfulness, breathing and self-compassion.

Try this 2-minute meditation and let us know how it worked for you by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories!

And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide!

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