Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

#131: Having a Bad Day? Listen to this.

In today's episode, Mary gives a little pep talk around what to do when you're having a bad day.

You will learn how to...

• shift your mood when you have a bad moment in your day

• define what a bad day means to you and what is contributing to those feelings

• define what a good day looks like for you

Remember: We need to work on untying and detaching our mood on external factors.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

#130: Surrendering & Shattering the Ego with Jake Sasseville

Our first ever male guest on the show (aside from Boyfriend, of course!) is Jake Sasseville!! Jake is a dear friend of Mary’s who vulnerably shares his life story including struggles with weight/ body-image, career successes and failures, and what he’s learned along the way.

This is a conversation about…

• surrendering to life’s highs and lows

• overcoming codependent and addictive behaviors

• creating true, unimaginable success in your life

• how your weight does not have to hold you back

Remember: NEXT. RIGHT. ACTION.

Jake Sasseville is a serial entrepreneur, author, podcaster and TV producer. He is the CEO of Imiloa Institute in Costa Rica, he was the youngest host in late-night TV history on ABC, and the White House, and Kauffman Foundation named him one of the most “innovative entrepreneurs.” He has built a wide-ranging and impactful career at the intersection of culture and consciousness.

At 17, he learned early on about life’s private struggles: his thirteen-year brother died of leukemia and his father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease in the same year. As a result, Sasseville has been known to be a sensitive, steadfast and resilient leader, often choosing pioneering paths instead of roads frequently traveled.

Follow Jake on Instagram: @jakesasseville

Learn more about retreats at Imiloa Institute here: https://imiloainstitute.com/retreats/ (and use code TEA to get $250 off an Imiloa Signature Retreat!)

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @jakesasseville

#129: Dating with Confidence

A short solo episode where Mary shares her #1 tip for feeling confident in yourself while dating. Whether you’re seeing someone or just casually dating, this is the mindset you must adopt to attract good, healthy people in your life.

Remember: you are worthy of stable, healthy love.

Get Beyond Body for 75% off: https://maryscupoftea.com/bb

#128: Making Your Relationship Last with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Since Mary is getting married soon, it’s only fitting that she talks to renowned relationship psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon.

You will learn...

• which green flags to look out for in your relationship

• how to navigate feeling like you’re carrying the “emotional burden” of your relationship

• what it means when you say “I love you but I’m not in love with you”

• the key to making a relationship last long-term

Follow Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon
Learn more about Alexandra here: www.dralexandrasolomon.com

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon

Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today, the creator and host of the Reimagining Love podcast, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; New Harbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Dr. Alexandra’s podcast episode with her husband Todd: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/

#127: Nervous About Your Purpose? Listen to this.

Last week, Mary almost applied for a job at Trader Joe’s because she was feeling nervous about her purpose. If you’ve ever questioned your path in life, then this episode is for you.

You will learn...

• the 2 scenarios that lead to questioning everything

• how to create your purpose in a sea of possibilities

• 3 questions to ask yourself to gain clarity around your purpose

Perhaps it’s unwise to think about the future when there is so much for us to learn in the present…

 If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Mentioned In This Episode...
 Blog post on Japanese concept of “ikigai”: https://www.brightspacecoaching.com/blog/find-your-purpose

#126: Travel That Makes You a Better Person with Chelsea Glass

An incredibly rich conversation about how travel transforms your character. Mary interviews Chelsea Glass, owner of Heart of Travel, an organization that helps you learn about Latin American culture through Spanish classes and small group trips.

You will learn about…

• how to travel ethically and truly support the country you’re visiting

• the hardships of interracial and intercultural relationships

• how to find your “home,” whether it’s the place you were born or somewhere abroad

Remember: travel can teach us so much about ourselves and the world around us. If done intentionally, travel transforms you.

Chelsea Glass was born and raised in California and first began studying Spanish at the age of 19. After more than a decade immersed in the language, along with her post-graduate studies in Spanish at CSU Sacramento, Chelsea is a fluent Spanish speaker and experienced language instructor. From 2012 to 2016, Chelsea worked in both tourism and language education (Spanish and ESL) while pursuing her M.A. in Spanish before moving back full time to Guatemala in 2017 to start Heart of Travel. Chelsea has a deep passion for authentic travel and aims to dispel preconceived ideas and notions about Latin American cultures through small group trips. She currently resides in Antigua, Guatemala with her partner and two daughters.

Follow Heart of Travel on Instagram: @heartoftravel__
Heart of Travel’s Spanish courses: https://heartoftravelspanish.teachable.com/?affcode=1054958_iujaf4rj
Heart of Travel’s small group trips: https://heartoftravel.org/pages/travel-with-us

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @heartoftravel__

Mentioned In This Episode...
Basic level Spanish class Mary is taking: https://heartoftravelspanish.teachable.com/p/basic-travel-spanish-i2?affcode=1054958_iujaf4rj

#125: Productivity for Self-Lovers

In order to go after our goals and make our dreams come true, we must prioritize stuff that’s important over tasks that feel urgent. Mary will teach you how to use self-love to decipher between urgency and importance.

You will learn...

• why it’s so hard to motivate yourself

• the difference between urgency and importance, and why you must prioritize the latter)

• how to replace FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)

Remember: accepting that we are finite creatures with infinite possibilities liberates us to do what we really want to. Love yourself enough to choose the important over the urgent.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Mentioned In This Episode...
How to Master Your Priorities Medium Article: https://medium.com/swlh/how-to-master-your-priorities-with-the-urgent-important-matrix-a7904de55266
Productivity for Mortals on the Making Sense Podcast: https://www.samharris.org/podcasts/making-sense-episodes/289-time-management-for-mortals

#124: How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

The fear of failure is closely related to the fear of success. Even though it seems like they’re opposite, both are a self-worth struggle.

In this episode you will learn how to...

• self-talk your way through the fear of failure

• believe in yourself

• take small risks that lead to big results

Remember: Believing in yourself is harder to do than not believing in yourself. It takes courage. It takes willpower. It takes support. It takes stamina and stubbornness and it’s really uncomfortable but boy is it worth it.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

 

#123: The Sex Ed You Didn’t Get with Erica Smith

An interview with Erica Smith (@ericasmith.sex.ed), a sexuality educator who talk to us about abortion, purity culture, and how to talk to people about sex.

You will learn...

• why sexual education is so important and how to talk to young people about sex

• how to talk to people in your life who might not understand the severity of the abortion issue, specifically your partner

• what purity culture is and how deeply it affects us

Erica Smith (she/her) is an award winning sexuality educator and consultant with over 20 years of experience. She has provided comprehensive sex education and advocacy to young women and LGBTQ+ youth in Philadelphia’s juvenile justice system, worked in abortion care, and supported HIV+ and transgender adolescents and their families. She received her Master of Education from Widener University's Center for Human Sexuality Studies. In 2019, she developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program to help people learn all of the sex education that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive. Erica lives in Philadelphia with her partner and house full of rescue animals and you can find her on Instagram at @ericasmith.sex.ed

Follow Erica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.sex.ed/
Learn more about the Purity Culture Dropout Program here: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-program

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ericasmith.sex.ed Mentioned In This Episode... Sex Education- show on Netflix

#122: Your Self-Love Survival Guide for When Everything Sucks

Mary shares her best advice for practicing self-love during difficult times.

You will learn...

• the 3 components of self-compassion

• how to know the difference between avoiding and coping

• ways to process and move through heavy emotions

Remember: we must be protective and intentional with our energy. Self-care is important now more than ever.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Mentioned In This Episode...
Episode #115: Learning the Difference
Episode #32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
Well + Good Article: https://www.wellandgood.com/manage-stress-roe-v-wade/