Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

#61: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead)

In this solo episode I talk about why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness might leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting feeling. Instead, I invite you to let go of the expectation that you must be happy all the time, and instead, focus on creating MEANING in your life.

You will learn...

• How hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life

• Why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image

• Tips for creating more meaning in your everyday life

Remember: Happiness is fleeting. Meaning is fulfilling. Ditch the happiness treadmill and start creating more meaning in your everyday life.

Links/ Resources Mentioned:

Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: https://amzn.to/3gdszZN The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson: https://amzn.to/3uH7fzO

Get Mary’s new book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/book. This is a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide!

And if you’re looking for more book recommendations, check out some of my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are self-help books every woman MUST read, and you can check them out at https://maryscupoftea.com/books/

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#60: Diet Culture in Your Romantic Relationships

In this solo episode, Mary shares with you her tips on how to navigate diet culture within your romantic relationships. You will learn valuable communication tools to express to your partner how to be less "diety." Mary also shares how her boyfriend has learned to have a better relationship with body image and how to do a "safety check" before embarking on a serious conversation about body image in your own relationships!

 

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#59: My Best Friend Interviews Me! On Book Writing, Marriage, Adult Friendships, and Boob Sweat?!

The tables have turned and this time, Mary is the one being interviewed by her best friend, Dahli Durley (@hellodahlibaby). Mary and Dahli met back in 2018 and have been really close friends ever since (although much of their friendship has been long distance!). In this insightful and entertaining conversation, Mary and Dahli talk about...

• What it's really like to write and publish a book

• How to make friends as an adult

• Navigating dating, ghosting, marriage, and divorce

• Boob sweat, foot fetishes, skittles and more!

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#58: Reminders for Recovery with Imogen Barnes

In this episode, Mary is joined by Imogen Barnes, an Eating Disorder Recovery Advocate. Imogen shares an honest recount of her journey with her own eating disorder and what has helped her in the recovery process. In this episode, you will learn:

• How living with an eating disorder creates anxiety around food and other areas of your life.

• Imogen's journey with OCD and how it contributed to her eating disorder.

• Tips to help with recovery.

 

Things Mentioned:

Imogen's IG post: What if I miss my eating disorder?

 

Follow Imogen on Instagram:

@im_powering

 

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#57: Why Affirmations Don't Work (and What To Do Instead)

Have you ever Googled "self-love affirmations" hoping that they'll help you with self-love, but almost feeling like they... didn't work?

Affirmations sounds nice as an Instagram caption or on a Pinterest quote, but they can often leave us feeling like we're soooo far away from our goal. In this episode, Mary explains the psychology behind why affirmations don't work and what you can do instead that will really help you in your self-love journey.

Note: if affirmations work for you, then that's great! Do what's best for you. But try this other practice too and see how you feel. :)

Episodes Mentioned: Episode #36 with Kara Loewentheil

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#56: Financial Literacy for Womxn with Dasha Kennedy AKA The Broke Black Girl

In this episode we talk to Dasha Kennedy (@thebrokeblackgirl) about how our financial well-being impacts our lives as womxn. In this empowering yet practical episode, you will learn...

• how the gender gap hurts women (basically, we are paid less for doing more!!)

• ways to think about your finances in an empowering way (no money shame here!)

• how to remain financially alert in your relationship (and why you should be!)

• what to plan for when it comes to marriage

Dasha Kennedy, better known as The Broke Black Girl, is a millennial financial coach whose no-B.S coaching strategies are helping women of color get ahead.

After a tough life event, Dasha realized how financially unprepared she was, so she began sharing her journey towards financial success on Facebook. The Broke Black Girl (BBG) Facebook group focuses on the financial struggles facing young women of color who have often been overlooked in the traditional conversations around personal finance. Within a year the BBG group has skyrocketed to over 70,000 women.

Dasha has more than a decade of experience working as an accountant and default counselor. She is leading women through discussions around different aspects of financial wellbeing.

Remember: "The ultimate display of love is securing the person you love financially." ~ Dasha Kennedy on Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast

Follow Dasha on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebrokeblackgirl

Get Dasha's Budget Bestie Bundle for only $18 https://tbbgdigital.com/pages/budget-bestie-bundle-1

#55: 10 Things My Eating Disorder Taught Me

In this solo episode Mary shares life lessons she learned from her eating disorder recovery journey.

Although Mary's life lessons are a byproduct of recovery, you'll love this episode even if you don't relate to having an eating disorder.

You will learn...

• Mary's mantra for getting through difficult times

• Why "being happy" is not a good goal (and what to strive for instead)

• How to stop beating yourself up and practice self-compassion

Things Mentioned: Episode #2: How To Fall in Love with Yourself Episode # 52: The F*ck It Diet with Caroline Dooner

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#54: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself for More Self-Love

In this episode, Mary shares 5 questions to ask yourself for more self-love. These are questions that you can either journal about or simply ponder in your head. They are proven to help you create more peace, joy, and (self) love in your life. Here's a little sneak peek of the 5 questions:

1. Who would I be if didn't ?

2. What is the ___ that could happen if I _?

3. How can I create more _ in my life? (This one is arguably THE most important question to ask yourself!!)

4. If this was __, what would it ___?

5. What do I ____ right now?

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#53: Money, Abundance, and Alignment with Melyssa Griffin

Today Mary is interviewing her business coach Melyssa Griffin! The past 6 months, Mary was in Melyssa’s business mastermind called the Aligned Abundance Mastermind which you can learn more about at alignedabundancemastermind.com.  

Melyssa Griffin is a former school teacher turned entrepreneur who believes that the best way to grow a thriving business is to heal the leader behind the scenes. She coaches entrepreneurs back to their inner truth so that they can create abundance without self-abandonment. Together, we’ll reprogram the limiting beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck so that you can create unapologetic success and abundance.  

In this episode you will learn…  

• How Melyssa went from being a school teacher to being a 7-figure online business owner
• The mindset you need to adopt to make more money
• What alignment means and how it will help you in all areas of your life  

 

If you’re interested in joining Melyssa’s mastermind, you can learn more about it and apply here: alignedabundancemastermind.com.  

 

And you can connect with Melyssa on IG as @melyssa_griffin and learn more at melyssagriffin.com.  

 

#52: The F*ck It Diet with Caroline Dooner

Eight years ago, Caroline Dooner started a blog called The Fuck It Diet. She was trying to heal her relationship with food, and she needed a place to share everything she was learning about the dark side of dieting. What she learned about food and weight changed my life, and now you can read the book The F*ck It Diet. If you struggle with your relationship with food, the Fuck It Diet is for you.

In this episode, Caroline and Mary talk about...

- What the Fuck It Diet is and how it's different from intuitive eating
- Why rest is highly underrated and incredibly necessary for our healing
- The difference between food addiction and diet addiction
- The difference between overeating, emotional eating, and binge eating (it's not what you think!!)
- Why eating should be easy and how you can do it too

 

Follow Caroline on Instagram: @thefuckitdiet

Get Caroline's book: The F*ck It Diet: Eating Should Be Easy

Things mentioned: The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron
Fat!So?  by Marilyn Wann

 

Lastly, if you haven't already, make sure to pre-order your copy of Mary's new book, The Gift of Self-Love: A Workbook to Help You Build Confidence, Recognize Your Worth, and Learn to Finally Love Yourself!

By pre-ordering The Gift of Self-Love, you'll get FREE access to Mary's next online self-love retreat. Just go to maryscupoftea.com/book for more info + the links to pre-order the book!