Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

#41: Why Self-Love is Not Selfish with Shannon Kaiser

In this episode, Mary is joined by Shannon Kaiser. Shannon is an author, life coach, speaker and retreat leader. Shannon gives an honest recount of her own journey with anxiety, depression, addiction and eating disorders and what led her to learn how to truly love herself. In this episode, Shannon discusses…

 

• Approaching self-love as an experiment.
• Making the choice to love yourself.
• The importance of gratitude and self-care.
• Being enough as you are.
• Loving yourself as the greatest act to help the world.

 

Shannon Kaiser is the bestselling author of five books on the psychology of happiness and fulfillment, including the #1 bestseller, The Self-Love Experiment and Adventures for Your Soul and Joy Seeker. As an international life coach, speaker and retreat leader, she helps people trust and believe in themselves so they can live their highest potential. She's been named a top 100 Women to Watch in wellness by mindbodygreen and "your-go-to happiness booster" by Health magazine. She has also been recognized as a Must-Follow Instagram Account for Inspiration by Entrepreneur magazine and a Top Facebook Account for Daily Motivation by mindbodygreen.

 

Visit her website at playwiththeworld.com and follow on social media @ShannonKaiserWrites.

 

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#40: Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion with Beth Ruffin

 

In this episode Mary is joined by Beth Ruffin. Beth is an author, speaker and coach that works with organizational consulting and one on one coaching focusing on inclusion in the workspace.

 

In this episode you will learn how to...

- explore your own biases

- be more inclusive in your day to day life

- use language that embodies inclusivity

- build a brand/business that is focuses on diversity, equity, and inclusion

and so much more!

 

Beth spent 20 years in Corporate America before realizing her dream of entrepreneurship, opening her own boutique consulting firm, The Everyday Inclusionist. Beth is committed to making our world more inclusive through consulting, coaching and speaking.  She is also the host of “At the Table,” a weekly podcast about elevating the voices of the underrepresented.  Beth’s first book, Get Up, details her journey to self-acceptance.  Her second book, You Belong Here, explores the topic of Self Inclusion.  Beth believes that everyone has a purpose and has the power within them to impact lives.  She is mom to one daughter and in her spare time blogs and travels.

 

 

Links mentioned:

Beth's 10 Tips for Building an Inclusive Business

 

You can find Beth on Instagram as @thebethruffin and on her website bethruffin.com

 

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#39: How To Stop Caring What Others Think of You

In this solo episode Mary talks about how to stop caring about OPO (other people’s opinions), OPE (other people’s expectations) and OPA (other people’s agendas). You will learn how to truly live for yourself, not other people, and what it means when you’re feeling “stuck” in life. She also shares some tips that will help you learn what your core values are, find the right support system and recognize negative projections.

 

Books and Links Mentioned:

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

betterhelp.com/mcot

 

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#38: Sex, Orgasms, & Masturbation with Emily Nagoski

Ok, this interview is a juicy one!! We are talking with Emily Nagoski about all things SEX like...

- how to increase your chances of feeling a climax or orgam
- how to talk to your partner about your sexual desires
- how to release sexual shame during sex or while masturbating
- different ways to masturbate and feel pleasure
- how to feel more accepting of how you look "down there"
- what sexuality is and what it's not
- and so. much. more

Emily Nagoski is a writer, sex educator, researcher, activist, and self proclaimed nerd. Emily went to Indiana University for a M.S. in Counseling Psychology and she continued on to earn a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a concentration in human sexuality. Now, she is the award-winning  author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life. Her new book, Burnout, was released in 2019 which she co-authored with her sister Amelia to help women end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and feeling not enough.

I have been dreaming of this interview with Emily ever since I read Come As You Are 4 years ago! It's a book I recommend to anyone who wants to get to know their body better and feel more informed, educated, and empowered by their sexuality. It truly will transform your sex life and how you see your sexuality in general!

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#37: How To Deepen Your Self-Worth

In this episode, Mary talks about the difference between self-worth and self-confidence. She also gives you 3 ways to strengthen your sense of self-worth in a way that's helpful and long-lasting in your self-love journey.

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#36: Feminism, Body-Image, & Unf*cking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil

This episode is going down as one of our favorites! In this episode Mary is joined by Kara Loewentheil who talks about how we can use thought work to retrain our brains and ultimately change our reality. Kara uses a very unique approach that combines life coaching and feminism to empower women to think, see, and feel better about themselves. In this episode Kara explains how to...

- think better thoughts about your body
- recognize the link between the patriarchy and our negative thoughts
- use feminism and thought work to combat the pressures of beauty standards
- apply thought work to social justice issues and create positive change in this world
- manage our mind to feel less stressed, anxious, and negative
- and so much more!

Kara is a Master Certified Coach with a B.A. from Yale and J.D. from Harvard Law. Kara is the host of the iTunes top-rated self-help podcast Unf*ck Your Brain which has been downloaded 10M times, and she has been featured in outlets like Marie Claire, Mind Body Green, MSN.com, and The Huffington Post.

This episode goes deep in many different directions so we recommend taking notes as you're listening and letting the message sink in.

You can find Kara on her podcast: UnF*ck Your Brain or her website: unfuckyourbrain.com

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#35: How to Set Boundaries with Diet Culture

In this solo episode, Mary shares her 5-step process for setting boundaries with diet culture. These 5 steps will help you speak up to that friend who keeps talking about diets or your family who keeps commenting on your body. Setting boundaries is important in ANY relationship, but especially when it comes to those people who are triggering you back into diet culture.

You MUST tell them that certain things are not okay and Mary's here to help you do that. Happy boundary-setting!

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#34: Living with Chronic and Mental Illness with Esmé Wang

In this interview Mary speaks with the beautiful and talented writer Esmé Wang about what it's like living with chronic and mental illness. Esmé shares her most helpful tools for dealing with depression and anxiety, especially during this difficult time where everything is uncertain. She also gives advice on how we should approach people with disability and how social justice must coexist in our conversations about mental health.

In February 2019, Graywolf Press published Esmé's essay collection, The Collected Schizophrenias, which became a New York Times bestseller and the Los Angeles Review of Books stated that “Esmé Weijun Wang is poised to become a major writer, and this is her origin story.” Her debut novel, The Border of Paradise, has received accolades and kind words from places such as LitHub, NPR Books, and the Chicago Review of Books. She was selected by Granta for their once-a-decade Best of Young American Novelists list of 21 authors under 40, and she received the prestigious Whiting Award in 2018.

 

Things Mentioned:

Andrew Scott's performance in Sea Wall: https://www.seawallandrewscott.com

Fiona Apple's Fetch The Bolt Cutters Album: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9tY0BWXOZFthbMAh1WrMDEho_wKVSM_1

The Cut article: https://www.thecut.com/2019/02/esme-weijun-wang-on-her-book-the-collected-schizophrenias.html

 

Connect with Esmé online:

https://esmewang.com

https://www.instagram.com/esmewwang/

 

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#33: Interviewing My Boyfriend!!

The episode we've all been waiting for! The one where Mary interviews her boyfriend! Mary and her boyfriend talk about their relationship by answering some of YOUR questions! Here are the questions Mary and her boyfriend answer in this episode:

 

1. How have you grown since being in a relationship with Mary?

2. Why do you think your relationship worked out so well even though it seemed to move very quickly?

3. What's your favorite thing about each other?

4. What was the moment you both "knew" you were each other's person?

5. What's different about this relationship than past relationships?

6. How does your boyfriend cope with your posts with minimal or no clothing?

7. Is it hard living together? What are the challenging parts and what are the best parts?

8. Did he deal with body confidence issues as well?

9. How do you plan to teach your kids body confidence?

 

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#32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff

In this episode, Mary interviews the pioneer of self-compassion research: Dr. Kristin Neff. Although our society puts much focus on building self-esteem, Dr. Kristin explains why self-compassion is a much more useful and impactful place to focus on. From soothing symptoms of depression and anxiety to helping us be kinder to others, self-compassion is key to greater well-being, especially for women. Dr. Kristin generously shares tips and tools that will help you be kinder to yourself during difficult times.

In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on self-compassion, Dr. Kristin is author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. She received her doctorate from UC Berkeley, studying moral development and then did 2 years of postdoctoral study at the University of Denver studying self-concept development. During Kristin’s last year of graduate school she became interested in Buddhism and has been practicing meditation ever since. While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically until Dr. Kristin created a scale to measure the concept. Dr. Kristin is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin.

In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed a training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. They co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals.

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This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books.

 

FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM:

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@maryspodcast

@retreatsbymary

 

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