Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

#11: Self Love During Crisis

The world is in crisis right now and we are all feeling it. In this episode, Mary gives you tips and tools to handle this tough time with self-compassion. If you use the tools Mary gives, this 15-minute episode will help you feel more positively during this time of uncertainty. Remember: you don't have to do anything right now unless it feels aligned to YOU. It doesn't matter what home workout that girl on social media is "recommending"; what does YOUR body, mind, and spirit need right now?

 

Sending you all so much love! Hang in there xx

#10: Healing Sexual Trauma with Ailey Jolie

Ailey is Registered Clinical Counsellor with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors. She holds a Masters of Counselling Psychology and is a student in the Global Mental Health: Trauma and Recovery Certificate Program at Harvard Medical School. In this episode, Ailey shares with us how eating disorders can often come after sexual violence, whether that’s a microaggression or a macro one. She gives us permission to feel, tips to heal, and ways we can begin to reconnect to our bodies after trauma. Ailey emphasizes that she is not only a therapist, but a human like you, so she shares a lot of her personal journey of struggling with an eating disorder, being in the modeling/pageant industry, rejecting her sexuality, and healing from her own sexual violence.

 

“Deep” doesn’t even begin to describe the true depth of what Ailey shares so when you listen, make sure to give yourself the time, space, and grace to process everything she says and think about ways to apply it to your own self love and healing journey.

IG posts mentioned: What Type of Sex Serves You? https://www.instagram.com/p/B8hBhEeJwsC/

#9: Q&A with Mary

Q&A with Mary- ED Recovery, Social Media Business, Life Goals, & More!

 

Mary answers YOUR questions about everything from starting a business on social media, recovering from an eating disorder, and overcoming codependency. Here are the questions Mary answers:

 

1. Has being so open on social media affected your own eating disorder recovery? If so, how?
2. Your life goals! Career? Kids? Marriage?
3. How did you know you were ready to speak up and share your journey online?
4. How did you deal with your codependency?
5. Was one of your goals of ED recovery to stop thinking about food and weight all the time? If so, how do you deal with it now that your life is still about those topics?
6. Do you feel like it’s inappropriate to compliment someone’s physical features if they’ve suffered from an eating disorder? How do you give compliments about someone’s appearance without triggering someone?
7. How do you deal with others around you who are constantly negative about their own weight and self image? 
8. What do you think about BMI? Does BMI show state of health in some way?
9. How do you create such consistent and relatable content all the time? How do you get more engagement on social media?
10. Did you ever lose your period during your eating disorder years? If so, how did you get your period back in recovery?
11. How did you start up your self love retreats?
12. I’m finally feeling really confident in my body after gaining a significant amount of weight. However, my mom invalidates that I’ve ever struggled with disordered eating and she constantly violates my boundaries by suggesting that I need to lose weight. I can handle criticism from random trolls, but my self love journey feels incomplete without my mom on-board. How do you handle pushback from people you love?

 

#8: Stop Overthinking, Embrace Perfectionism, & Let Creativity Heal You with Meg Rosko

This week Mary interviews her dear friend Meg Rosko (@nutmegandhoneybee). Over the past two years, Meg has dedicated her life to cultivating purpose and joy through the healing nature of art and community. Meg vulnerably shares how she started tapping into her creativity by baking cookies after her the death of her older brother. That pivotal moment in her life became a catalyst for expressing her grief through art, and more specifically, learning how to transform pain into sweetness. A few years later, Meg realized that she does not need to define herself as just one thing. Meg hopes to inspire YOU to find the comfort in the unknown of your life, the beauty in all of your experiences, and the courage to create a life rooted in love. 

 

Mary and Meg also bond over their struggles with overthinking, perfectionism and people-pleasing and share some tools on how to work through them. This interviews goes many different directions so grab a cup of tea and enjoy the ride!

 

Books mentioned: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

#7: Mary Gets Interviewed! How to be Healthy without Dieting

Today’s episode is a little different, a turning of the tables where Mary gets interviewed on someone else’s podcast! Mary talks about her experience with binge eating, how she went viral on Instagram, and how to balance health with self love. Mary also shares how she changed her mindset and started accepting her body, weight gain and all! You’ll probably want something to take notes with while you listen!

 

This episode was originally for the Positively Selfish Podcast by Robyn Lee so go check it out when you get a chance! Let us know how you like this episode by taking a screenshot for your Instagram stories and tagging Mary @maryscupofteaa and Robyn @itsrobynlee!

#6: From ED Recovery to Multi 6-Figure CEO with Rachel Spencer

In this episode, Mary is joined by Rachel Spencer to talk about how building your own business and investing in yourself can help you build confidence and realize how incredibly powerful you are, BEYOND your struggles.

 

Rachel Spencer is a Business Coach and self-love influencer living in New York City.

Her passion is helping boss babes all over the world to master their message, stand out, and become an authority in their niche so that they can stop feeling invisible and sell with ease!

 

Rachel struggled with self-confidence and self-esteem issues spurned by unrealistic images in the media during her teenage years, and in her 20s, her issues began to affect every area of her life.  In this episode, Rachel talks about how having a business helped her not only heal from her eating disorder, but also build her own confidence and self worth. She shares her tips for starting your own business and how to stop feeling guilty when it comes to money, whether that’s making money or spending money.

#5: How to Feel Sexy and Confident in the Bedroom

When you feel good in your body and embrace your sexual side, you show up in a more empowered, confident way. Welcome to this special “V-Day” edition of Tea Time with Mary. In this episode, Mary discusses ways that have personally helped her to be more confident in the bedroom. What happens when you use sex to seek validation? And what can you do to show yourself a little more love? As Mary states, your body is for YOU and feeling pleasure in your body is not shameful, it’s natural and needs to be embraced more by women everywhere. So, let’s celebrate this V-Day by celebrating ourselves, our bodies and our sexuality a little bit more!

Books mentioned: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski and Pussy: A Reclamation by Regina Thomashauer.

Products mentioned: plusOne makes affordable, high-quality sex toys that you can get at WalMart, Amazon, or Target all under $35! plusOne is breaking down barriers and disrupting outdated taboos regarding self-pleasure with their line of beautiful, affordable and approachable vibrators and sexual wellness products.

P.S. If you’re not in a relationship right now, please don’t let this be a day where you beat yourself up about it. At the end of the day, V-Day is a highly-commercialized holiday and literally means nothing. Take this as a day to show extra love for yourself, just because.

#4: 22 Things I Learned in 22 Years

This is the birthday episode!! Mary shares with you life lessons she had to learn the hard way in her past 22 years on this earth. She talks about everything from sex, hair removal, and yeast infections, to divorce and relationships, to self love and body image.

 

Here are a few of her favorite lessons…

1. You’re not everyone’s cup of tea, nor should you strive to be. There’ll always be people who won’t like you no matter what you do.
2. Hating yourself will not make you happy. Criticizing your body will not make you look better. Shame will not make you feel worthy. Self-love is the way.
3. Hair removal is overrated.
4. Your body’s only purpose is to keep you alive. Be kind to it.

 

This episode is very personal so please let Mary know how you like it by screenshotting and tagging her in your Instagram stories!

#3: Dealing with Weight Gain, Addressing Trauma, and Feminism with Jessica Demasi

This week Mary talks with Jessica Demasi, a Certified Eating Psychology Coach specializing in Functional Endocrinology and creator of whollyhealed.com. Jessica started whollyhealed.com due to a lack of integrative care when it comes to healing eating disorders. In this conversation, we hear about how early traumas can result in dysfunctional habits around food and body image. We also learn about ways to take a deeper look at our own traumas and how we can begin to heal from them. Mary and Jessica also take a deep dive into the topic of feminism and how it has helped Jessica empower herself on her own mission. So sit back, grab a cup of tea and enjoy this week’s episode!

#2: How to Fall in Love with Yourself

“We often think of self love as a noun…” a thing we want more of. “In reality, love is a verb…” something inside of us and something that we do; not something we possess. In this episode, Mary talks about the paradox of thinking that if we only have more things to do what we want to do then we can achieve self love. “If you want to have self love, start with the be.” We also hear more about Mary’s personal journey with body image and take a look at how it has affected her relationships in the past, from judging others to how it affected her sex life. Mary also discusses the importance of romanticizing your own life and what that could possibly look like for you. Take a moment to brew a warm cup of tea and enjoy the show!