Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

#190: How to Ask for & Receive HELP without Feeling Guilty

Hyper-independence could be holding you back. Speaking for myself, I am reluctant to ask for and subsequently RECEIVE help which leads to stress, resentment, and basically me running myself in circles.

You will learn how to...
- ask for help in small and big ways
- convince your brain that you’re not being a burden
- harness this healthy receiving energy to feel more at peace

Remember: self-worth is directly proportional to your willingness to receive.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

#189: 5 Thought Patterns Keeping You Stuck

Jumping on the fresh New Year energy, we’re discussing 5 thought patterns that are keeping you stuck + new mindsets to embrace instead.

You will learn how to...
- stop overthinking
- cease comparing yourself to others
- quickly get out of negative self-talk

Remember: there is a survival-based need behind everything we do, no matter how self-destructive. Luckily, there are more empowering ways to motivate yourself with self-compassion and self-love at the core.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns & How to Break Them with Maria-Victoria Albina- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5zXXHgPJgzC9HVtVMJuZmS?si=DueamaQJRZugQw6Ru_EZxw
Ep. 32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff- https://open.spotify.com/episode/6rHAFkK3zikk9FFZURAZMm
Ep. 183: The Best Book on Communication- https://open.spotify.com/episode/3l23N2zAkMk4EVzJlSnooy?si=1_R_GfxtSbuSm5OnLrKLaw
Mary’s 2024 Vision Board- https://www.instagram.com/p/C1ngjVMP7Ll/?hl=en

#188: 12 Lessons Learned in 2023 (on Marriage, Family, and Friendships)

A personal solo episode where Mary reflects on the highs, lows, and lessons learned of 2023. We invite you to think of your own lessons learned from each month of the year as you’re listening. We hope you had a happy holiday season and a refreshing start to your New Year.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s self-love workbook + journal:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

Ep. 145: My Super Simple New Years Intention Setting Process- https://open.spotify.com/episode/4udZhbOPwKrEJTdBrtX8ZD?si=bbbcbaceed9a43a9 Ep. 187: Clean Up Your Digital Space(s): https://open.spotify.com/episode/6LF9T54tKn7csoyyUXylm1?si=n9WHUqW2QHKqI3Nni4Vxaw Ep. 184: How to Find Yourself When You Feel Lost with Dr. Sara Kuburic: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7xyHsObn16axmtxE9ypbaC?si=242Xv_s7QCCkafPErwLm-g Ep. 170: Intentional Wedding Planning & Artful Gathering with Priya Parker: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0RRZmG1HVPVxKDwf87yu5s?si=9mIIq04wQjGwjRtT69oZRg Ep. 157: Wedding Reflections with My HUSBAND: https://youtu.be/2u1_XzYUKO0?si=EN8Ay277vboEoOwS Ep. 176: Our Safari Honeymoon Recap: https://youtu.be/iHPyOARLWh0?si=EoJ7iuoaZqylrmwF Ep. 183: The Best Communication Book: https://youtu.be/DlVt-VsCcgU?si=H3o6vDeXet94W9TD

#187: Clean Up Your Digital Space(s) Before the New Year

In this episode, Mary shares 6 ways to declutter your digital spaces.

You will learn how to…

- declutter your phone, computer and social media
- better manage your email
- organize important information

Remember: Self-love demands that we properly shift from one role to another, acknowledging that digital decluttering is not just about organizing our spaces but reclaiming our focus, reducing stress, and embracing a more intentional and organized use of technology. It's a journey towards improved well-being in a world filled with constant digital noise.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
How to Remember Your Life: https://youtu.be/GLy4VKeYxD4?si=JcMxOl_qkeSrxedr
Sign up for Notion: https://notion.grsm.io/zb63msx9ep0n

#186: 5 Habits that Have Made Me a Better Person (Encore)

In this solo encore episode, Mary shares 5 habits that are good for mental health and personal development AKA habits that might make you a better person!

Remember: take what you need and leave what you don‘t!

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. 

#185: Feeling Behind in Life? Listen to This.

The reason you feel behind in life is because you’re comparing yourself to others who seem to be ahead of you.

When you compare yourself to people who graduated, got jobs, got married, reproduced, bought cars and houses and vacations, not only are you doing a disservice to yourself, but you’re also contributing to the narrative that “success” is measured by external achievements rather than inner fulfillment.

Here’s how to stop comparing yourself to others and start accepting that you are exactly where you need to be.

Let this episode be a refreshing, encouraging reminder that feeling lost, directionless, or behind in life just means that you are taking the necessary time to pave your own way.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Get Your Self-Love TEA: https://maryscupoftea.com/tea
Ep. #163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yFlPHOd6psTmAu1iJh97L?si=eUtcRPv3S-CwNULANGmiEw
Ep. #180 on Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tXIGoj9RLZMjob3xbjqsN?si=LwWaB-3STWCe7tl18fPoUQ

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Cheers to self-love!

#184: How to Find Yourself When You Feel Lost with Dr. Sara Kuburic

“Some of us knew who we were and then we lost our way. Some of us never became our Self in the first place. We grew older, we aged, our roles and functions changed, but we never grasped our essence. We became many things- a professional, a partner, a mentor, a parent, a friend- but we never truly became our Self.” ~ pg. 22 in Dr. Sara Kuburic’s book, It’s On Me.

If you’ve ever felt this way– lost, like you don’t know who you really are– then this conversation is for you.

Dr. Sara is a psychotherapist who focuses on existential psychology after a long journey of experiencing, studying, and explaining the concept of “self-loss.”

You will learn...
- how to answer the question “who am I?”
- why hearing advice like “go find yourself” and “figure out who you are” is unhelpful
- the first step for how to create an AUTHENTIC sense of self

Remember: who you are evolves over time, but if we are stuck checking boxes and pleasing others, then we will always feel inauthentic, disconnected, and lost in life.

Follow Dr. Sara on Instagram: @millennial.therapist
Learn more about Dr. Sara's book here: https://amzn.to/3Rata05

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @millennial.therapist

#183: The Best Book on Communication

I thought I was a good communicator until I read this book.

It has challenged me (in a good way) and I wanted to share some of my takeaways with you.

You will learn...

• the book Mary’s been reading, bringing to therapy, and trying to learn from
• how most people communicate and why it causes conflict
• the 4 levels of communication

Remember: there’s a difference between communicating clearly and communicating compassionately. I always thought the goal was the former, but now I’m realizing that it’s the latter.

Hope you enjoy my unofficial book club, where we talk about books that have helped me heal, grow, and evolve.

If you liked this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Get the book Nonviolent Communication: https://amzn.to/3GaGriU

#182: Sober-Curious? This one’s for you. Therapist Amanda E. White on ALCOHOL

Most of us know that alcohol is poison, it makes us feel shitty, and rarely leads to much good. Despite knowing this, it’s easy to get pressured into drinking even if you don’t want to. This episode is for all my sober-curious friends, who want a fun-filled life without being dependent on alcohol (or any substance for that matter).

You will learn about...
- the benefits of quitting, or at least reducing, your consumption of alcohol
- how to set boundaries around alcohol around friends, family, and your partner
- the link between adderall and alcohol
- why alcohol makes us more turned on + ideas for sober dating
- how to regulate your emotions before turning to your substance of choice (whether that’s drinking, smoking, or scrolling)

Regardless if quitting drinking is right for you or not, you can be less dependent on substances and thus, more emotionally aware, connected, and present in your life.

Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the host of the podcast, “Recovered-ish.” She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook.  She is the founder  of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more.  To learn more visit amandaewhite.com

Follow Amanda on Instagram: @therapyforwomen
Get Amanda's Not Drinking Tonight book here: https://amzn.to/400T5KM

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @therapyforwomen

Mentioned In This Episode...
Dan Carlin’s Hardcore History Podcast: https://www.dancarlin.com/hardcore-history-series/

#181: Stress Eating? Listen to this.

The holiday season tends to be full of stress: family drama, financial strain, end-of-year work obligations, etc. If you find yourself turning to food to cope with stress, this episode is for you.

You will learn...
- why stress eating isn’t always bad and when it becomes a problem
- what to tell yourself if you feel like you overate
- how to mitigate stress eating and feel less guilty about it

Remember: Food can be complicated, but it can also be a solid source of comfort, pleasure, and joy. Stress eating is nothing to be ashamed of.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Episodes That’ll Help Your Relationship with Food...
Ep. 14: How to Stop Dieting, Restricting, & Binge Eating for Good: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3tylfVI2XscEZb5g5cHnKE?si=9a84338d304a4203
Ep. 17: The Science of Food Freedom w/ Jessi Jean: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mR0cbZYCNg5amrw4H6zlJ?si=57a51d956c484812
Ep. 29: My Entire ED Story: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6QpXQN0TT8wjEIaL0F1rHK?si=5cf3d47ab2214475
Ep. 150: Hidden Meanings in Disordered Eating with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ANZQbzkEMXrGtZiLT07cL?si=6b9ebb060b1c4800
Ep. 161: What Helped Me Finally Stop Binge Eating: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3bup5DXcRX6ELsFI3OBdlD?si=170248b972ff44ea