Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

#180: Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity

Mary is trying to undo decades of attaching her self-worth to her productivity. Which is HARD to say the least. This episode explores our limiting beliefs about productivity, while helping you detach your worth from your output.

You will learn...
- why productivity is a trap
- how to embrace doing nothing and let yourself rest
- 2 book recommendations that’ll help you form a better relationship with time
- practical tips for decoupling your sense of self-worth from how productive you feel

Remember: Who you are is not what you do. Your work is not your worth. Nothing you do will make you more valuable than you already are.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
4,000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://amzn.to/495x815
How To Do Nothing by Jenny Odell: https://amzn.to/498y0lp
Ep. 177 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Power of Slowing Down: https://spotify.link/LJFrTQgccEb
Ep. 125 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Productivity for Self-Lovers: https://spotify.link/NNhFH7dccEb
Ep. 79 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Dealing with Overwhelm via Self-Talk: https://spotify.link/q13zpNiccEb

#179: Feeling Like Your Body Betrayed You with Grief Expert Ashley Lemieux

CONTENT WARNING: this is an episode about pregnancy loss, chronic pain, and the grief that comes with feeling like your body has betrayed you. Ashley Lemieux joins us to share her personal experience with pregnancy loss, a near death health emergency, and crawling her way through grief.

This episode is a giant permission slip to let yourself feel your pain, to acknowledge your grief for what it is: maybe the worst thing that’s ever happened to you. You will also receive encouragement and tools for finding your light in the dark.

You will learn...
- how men and women grieve differently and the toll it can take on a marriage
- why so many of us feel GUILT in the grieving process
- how to begin to heal after a tragic loss
- ways to feel safe in your body after chronic pain

Ashley Lemieux is a best-selling author, speaker, and content creator whose mission is to help you triumph through challenging times. She holds a Masters in Mental Wellness and Grief, has written 2 books including Born to Shine and I Am Here, and hosts a podcast called Healing Her. Everything Ashley shares will help you feel less alone and more empowered, especially during life’s inevitable lows.

Remember: your pain is as bad as it feels.

Follow Ashley on Instagram: @ashleyklemeiux
Get Ashley's book, I Am Here:

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#178: Coping with Crisis in an Emotionally-Intelligent Way

In an age of information overload and devastating crises unfolding before our eyes, the importance of critical thinking and emotional regulation can not be understated. We must remain grounded and informed in the face of overwhelming news, opinions, and emotions. Tune in to learn Mary’s 5-step process for coping with crisis.

Note: This episode is not about political commentary. Rather, its focus is on sharing tools for processing horrific information on the internet so that you can remain physically and emotionally healthy even in the midst of intense crisis. While acknowledging the importance of humanitarian issues and social justice, this podcast is focused on self-love as a means to maintain personal well-being during challenging times.

Remember: it’s good to care about global, humanitarian issues but don’t let it come at the expense of your own humanity and well-being.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Why Has Social Media Made It Impossible to Follow the Israel-Hamas War? on the Offline Podcast with Jon Favreau: https://crooked.com/podcast/why-has-social-media-made-it-impossible-to-follow-the-israel-hamas-war/#:~:text=As fighting intensifies between Israel,content moderation and fact checking.
TikTok on how it takes 90 seconds to metabolize an emotion: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8haExJG/
The Lemon Tree book: https://amzn.to/3QwIcxb
Byron Katie’s 4 Liberating Questions: https://thework.com/2017/10/four-liberating-questions/
Dan Carlin’s Hardcore History Podcast: https://www.dancarlin.com/hardcore-history-series/

#177: The Power of Slowing Down

Have you ever lost something and spent hours frantically looking for it everywhere and then the item shows up when you’re not searching for it? And better yet, it shows up in the place you swear you’ve looked? When you’re rushing, you’re stuck in your own anxious headspace, not actually connected to yourself and your surroundings. Tune in to learn about the power of slowing down, and how it can help you harness your intuition. Plus, Mary shares 5 simple ways to practice slowing down in your daily life.

Remember: When you pause, you breathe, and when you breathe, you harness your power.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Ep. 176: Safari Honeymoon Recap, Reflections, & Recommendations

After an epic safari honeymoon, Mary and her husband recap their trip to Tanzania + Zanzibar.

They talk about…
- why they chose to do Tanzania safari + Zanzibar island for their honeymoon
- funny moments shared, memorable people met, and wild animals encountered
- their top hotel recommendations for Tanzania and Zanzibar
- what the trip itinerary + budget looked like

We hope this inspires you to add Tanzania to your bucket list (perhaps as a honeymoon destination)! Hotel recs are linked in the episode description. :)

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast

Hotels We Stayed At...
Amazing B&B in Arusha: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/haradali-39-s-home.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2
Best lodge with elephants near the pool: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g608450-d8467687-Reviews-Tarangire_Simba_Lodge-Tarangire_National_Park_Arusha_Region.html
Favorite luxury accommodation at Lake Manyara: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/escarpment-luxury-lodge.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2
Four Seasons in Serengeti: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/four-seasons-safari-lodge-serengeti.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2
Budget lodge in Ngorongoro Crater: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g317085-d1024831-Reviews-Ngorongoro_Rhino_Lodge-Ngorongoro_Conservation_Area_Arusha_Region.html
Cute hotel in the middle of Stone Town, Zanzibar: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/upendo-house-zanzibar-zanzibar.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2
Gorgeous resort in Kendwa, Zanzibar: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/zuri-zanzibar.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2

Other Experiences Mentioned…
Paddleboarding in Zanzibar: https://www.paddlesportszanzibar.com
Daraja Foundation: https://www.darajafoundation.com

#175: When It Feels “Too Good To Be True”

If you’ve ever felt like something or someone is “too good to be true” then this episode is for you. Mary talks about a model for strengthening your sense of self-worth, so that you finally feel worthy of things that are good AND true.

Remember: when what you WANT does not align with what you BELIEVE, you will experience an inner battle filled with doubt, fear, and self-sabotage. As you’re figuring out what you want, do not neglect the power of your beliefs.

Join the retreat priority list to get first dibs on our next self-love retreat! https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats

#174: Leaving the Church, Getting a Divorce, & Healing Religious Trauma w/ Morgan Tyler Haley

If you were raised in a restrictive, religious environment, this episode is for you. Morgan Haley joins us for a relatable and validating conversation about unsubscribing from beliefs that don’t serve you and discovering your own identity. FYI, we challenge and reject religious dogma that’s rooted in fear, shame, and hate.

You will learn...
⛪️ why Morgan decided to leave the evangelical Christian community and divorce her first marriage
💔 how that’s impacted her relationship with her family
❤️‍🩹 what’s helped Morgan heal from a lifetime of religious trauma
🏳️‍🌈 how her new relationship changed her view of love

Remember: there is no timeline for the healing process.

Morgan, or @findingmorgantyler on IG, is a queer fitness and yoga instructor whose goal is to bring you approachable workouts that you feel confident doing from the comfort of your home. She speaks openly about leaving religious dogma, discovering her sexuality, and healing from shame through movement. You can find the links to her app as well as her programs via the link in her IG bio.

Follow Morgan on Instagram: @findingmorgantyler
Learn more about Morgan’s approachable yoga + fitness programs: https://linktr.ee/Morgantyler?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=01a2c2e2-4af9-49b6-838e-16a69193565d

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @findingmorgantyler

#173: The Beauty of “Failure”

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I feel like a failure”? As a Type A, self-motivated, achievement-driven kind of person, failure is something you might feel often… even when you haven’t actually failed. The worst kind of failure is when you don’t meet your OWN expectation of success (which is more often than not) and find yourself stuck in a never-ending cycle of “feeling like a failure.”

In this episode, you will learn...
- why feeling like a failure is a THOUGHT, not an emotion (and how to talk yourself out of that BS)
- how to deal with common feelings of failure like when your body changes, a relationship ends, or a job opportunity doesn’t work out quite the way you expected
- 3 mindset shifts to help you feel better about potential failures

Remember: Anything that feels like failure right now is pushing you, preparing you, and pointing you toward the path you’re actually meant to be on.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#172: The Missing Pieces of the Body-Image Puzzle with Lindsay Kite

Have you ever thought that you were happier when you were thinner/ prettier/ younger/ etc?

In a culture that values thinness and beauty, it’s hard not to believe that your value lies in your appearance. We buy into arbitrary beauty ideals and false promises, killing ourselves to look a certain way.

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Lindsay Kite, co-author of the book More Than a Body and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, to talk about healing body-image struggles.

You will learn...
- the missing piece of the puzzle when we talk about body-image
- how the male gaze affects body-image
- why losing weight and changing your appearance never solves the problem
- ways to combat toxic beauty ideals and build body
-image resilience

Remember: keeping up with beauty ideals is a losing game. Adhering to society’s definition of beauty does NOT buy love, confidence, health, or happiness. Usually, it only exacerbates body-image struggles.

Dr. Lindsay Kite is co-author of the book More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament (2020, HarperCollins) and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, alongside her identical twin sister Lexie Kite. Both received PhDs from the University of Utah in the study of female body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Lindsay and Lexie help girls and women recognize and reject the harmful effects of objectification in their lives through their social media activism (IG @beauty_redefined), online course (morethanabody.org), and regular speaking engagements for people of all ages. Lindsay lives in New York City.

Follow Lindsay on Instagram: @beauty_redefined
Get Lindsay and Lexie Kite’s book, More Than a Body: https://www.morethanabody.org/more-than-a-body-book/

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_redefined

Mentioned In This Episode...
Lindsay’s TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/uDowwh0EU4w

#171: New Environment, New Mindset

Mary shares her lessons learned from traveling and talks about how putting yourself in a new environment is the best way to heal.

You will learn...
- 2 ways to get unstuck
- how Mary healed her relationship with exercise
- creative ways to shake up your environment

Remember: you cannot heal in the same environment that you got sick.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.