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Welcome to Self-Love. We cover topics surrounding self-love including body-image, confidence, self-worth, body positivity, mindset, mental health, feminism, relationships, and so much more. Along the way, your host Mary lets you in on her personal life, never shying away from the messy, raw, and real conversations that we all crave. So grab a cup of tea, slide in your headphones, and get ready for some self-lovin!
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Thursday Jul 13, 2023
Thursday Jul 13, 2023
Self-love is relational. We NEED people in our lives and gathering is how we build and nurture community. Today Priya Parker is on the show to teach us about the art of gathering, specifically as it pertains to weddings.
You will learn...
- why weddings are important for a couple and their families
- how Mary & Husband approached their wedding in a conscientious and feminist way
- the #1 thing to consider BEFORE planning a wedding (i.e. MUCH-NEEDED advice for engaged couples)
- how to set boundaries with friends and family as you’re planning a wedding and resolve any conflict that may come up
Remember: Weddings are symbolic, ritualistic, and a rite of passage for everyone involved. If done in an artful way, weddings can be a beautiful way to begin a marriage… tune in to learn how.
Priya Parker is a facilitator, strategic advisor, acclaimed author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters, and executive producer and host of the New York Times podcast, Together Apart. Trained in the field of conflict resolution, Parker has spent 20 years guiding leaders and groups through complicated conversations about community, identity, and vision at moments of transition. She lives in Brooklyn, NY, with her husband and two children.
Follow Priya on Instagram: @priyaparker
Learn more about Priya's Wedding Course here: https://course.priyaparker.com/aog-wedding-planning
Get Priya’s book, The Art of Gathering: https://www.priyaparker.com/book-art-of-gathering
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @priyaparker
Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. #157: Wedding Reflections w/ My HUSBAND: https://spotify.link/ivI8sz5NYAb
10 Wedding Planning Questions for the Artful Gathering Couple: https://www.priyaparker.com/wedding-planning-guide
Thursday Jul 06, 2023
Thursday Jul 06, 2023
If you believe you’re boring, you’re more likely to silence your voice, not share your story, not express your gifts.
If you want to put yourself out there whether it’s while dating, at work, trying to start a new business, become a content creator, make new friends, etc, you have to STOP thinking that you’re boring… because you’re not!!
Here’s a 10-minute pep-talk for anyone who feels like they’re boring or not interesting enough.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:
- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Mentioned In This Episode...
Quora article: https://www.quora.com/I-am-boring-and-uninteresting-I’m-not-very-talkative-I’m-stoic-and-I-have-no-energy-or-passion-I-read-and-play-video-games-and-I’m-in-a-club-but-don’t-meet-new-people-I-do-well-in-school-and-make-people-laugh-What-can-I-do-to-make-friends
Thursday Jun 29, 2023
Thursday Jun 29, 2023
WOW!!! This one is going down in history as one of our favorite episodes. Get ready to feel seen, heard, and understood thanks to this conversation with Eve Rodsky about the INVISIBLE and UNPAID labor of women.
Note: though we speak in heteronormative terms, this conversation is for anyone who feels like they’re taking on more responsibility in their relationship than their partner. And if you’re single/ dating and see yourself in a long-term partnership in the future, NOW is the time to start thinking about what “fair play” looks like.
You will learn...
- the 3 words that RUIN all relationships
- why women do more unpaid labor + some shocking statistics
- the secret formula for rebalancing the responsibilities in your household
- how to challenge cultural assumptions that say you must “do it all” and create a more equitable dynamic in your relationship
Remember: these gender imbalances are NOT YOUR FAULT nor are they your partner’s. There are a lot of cultural assumptions at play here and it’s time to dismantle them to create “fair play” between men and women.
Eve Rodsky transformed her “blueberries breakdown” into a catalyst for social change when she applied her Harvard-trained background in organizational management to ask the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations? Her New York Times bestselling book and Reese’s Book Club Pick, Fair Play, a gamified life-management system that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload and reimagine their relationship, has elevated the cultural conversation about the value of unpaid labor and care. In her highly anticipated follow-up, Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World, Rodsky explores the cross-section between the science of creativity, productivity, and resilience. Described as the ‘antidote to physical, mental, and emotional burnout,’ Rodsky aims to inspire a new narrative around the equality of time and the individual right to personal time choice that influences sustainable and lasting change on a policy level. Rodsky’s work is backed by Hello Sunshine—Reese Witherspoon’s media company whose mission is to change the narrative for women through storytelling. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband Seth and their three children.
Learn more about Fair Play and Unicorn Space at fairplaylife.com
Get the book, Fair Play: https://amzn.to/3N3Bxax
And the Fair Play card deck: https://amzn.to/43CKvmi
If you enjoyed this episode, share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @fairplay so we can see!
Mentioned In This Episode...
Extreme Ownership book: https://amzn.to/45TZNVc
TED Talk Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness: https://youtu.be/8KkKuTCFvzI
Thursday Jun 22, 2023
Thursday Jun 22, 2023
A lack of self-confidence shows up in small and big ways. Here are 5 not-so-obvious signs that you’re struggling with self-confidence, things that Mary is personally working on as well.
You will learn how to...
- stop trying to fill inner voids with external things
- start trusting yourself more
- get out of a victim mindset
Remember: No shiny new thing is going to give you the confidence, happiness, and positive feelings you’re looking for. You’re the only one who can change your mindset and it has to come from within.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:
- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thursday Jun 15, 2023
Thursday Jun 15, 2023
This one is for our fellow perfectionists. Those of us who were raised as girls and women, know how easy it is to fall into perfectionism, constantly equating our worth with how “perfect” we can appear to be. This is Part 2 of our conversation with Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these perfectionistic thinking and reclaim our authenticity.
You will learn...
- what happens in the nervous system of a perfectionist
- why women, eldest daughters especially, often exhibit signs of people-pleasing, codependency, and perfectionism and how it gets passed down through generations
- how perfectionism might be related to IBS and other digestion issues?!?!?!?
- tools to help you snap out of perfectionistic thinking
We hope this episode inspires you to choose PRESENCE > PERFECTION.
María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy.
She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley.
Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness
Learn more about María-Victoria's 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness
This episode is supported by Big Heart Tea, my favorite certified-organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I'm currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don't want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!
Thursday Jun 08, 2023
Thursday Jun 08, 2023
Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no”?
If so, then you might be a PEOPLE-PLEASER.
For those of us who were raised as girls and women, people-pleasing is an all too familiar way of relating to those around us. Today we are joined by Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these people-pleasing thought patterns and reclaim our authenticity. This conversation is equal parts entertaining and educational, thanks to María-Victoria’s joyful spirit.
You will learn about...
-what really happens in your nervous-system when you prioritize other people’s needs above your own
- non-obvious signs of people-pleasing and codependency
- ways to stop yourself from people-pleasing and start being more truthful, direct, and authentic
Remember: sourcing your feelings from the outside world is a sign of codependency. Contrary to what you might’ve been taught, your value does not depend on what others think of you.
María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy.
She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley. She’s also the creator of Anchored, a 6-month coaching program and a loving, supportive community for women and afab non-binary folks, where you’ll learn new ways to respond to stress and trauma, ditch codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing habits as you learn to relate to your body, mind and emotions in healthier ways.
Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness
Learn more about María-Victoria's 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored
And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media!
Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness
Thursday Jun 01, 2023
Thursday Jun 01, 2023
As the weather gets warmer, body-image can get harder. You might be thinking, “I’m nervous to be in a swimsuit around all of my friends, showing so much skin makes me feel insecure…” That’s why Mary is sharing 3 reminders for conquering summer body-image struggles: so that you can wear that bikini with less shame and more confidence.
Remember: do not let your body-IMAGE influence your life EXPERIENCE, especially this summer.
This episode is supported by Big Heart Tea, my favorite certified-organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I'm currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don't want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:
- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thursday May 25, 2023
Thursday May 25, 2023
Being lost is not just necessary. It’s inevitable. Everyone feels lost at times, most of us feel slightly lost all of the time. Whether you’re going through a transition in your career, questioning your purpose or feeling confused about your next steps, this episode will give you glimmers of hope amidst uncertainty.
You will learn...
- the 2 manifestations of feeling lost and where they stem from
- how to feel less agitated and more excited
- mindset shifts and ways to deal with your un-lived potentials
- how to surrender and trust that you are exactly where you need to be
Remember: You can look for yourself in people, places, careers, hobbies, experiences, and things, but the core of who you are is already within you. Clarity will come when you try new things and put yourself in positions to meet new opportunities.
This episode is supported by Big Heart Tea, my favorite certified-organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I'm currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don't want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:
- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Mentioned In This Episode...
Cheryl Strayed’s book, Tiny Beautiful Things: https://amzn.to/43ebyUt
Oliver Burkeman’s book, Four Thousand Weeks: https://amzn.to/439aT6F
Thursday May 18, 2023
Thursday May 18, 2023
Christy Harrison, a pioneer in the anti-diet movement, has transformed the way I see food, weight, and health. Now she’s coming on the show to talk about THE WELLNESS TRAP, a hodgepodge of diet culture, disinformation, and dubious diagnoses. Many wellness solutions that promise “health and healing” are really just promoting a standard of health that’s unattainable, problematic, and harmful to your health.
You will learn...
- why diets and weight loss are NOT the solution to health concerns
- how the wellness world tricks us into dubious diagnoses and harmful approaches to “healing”
- who often falls into the wellness trap (and why YOU might have at times too…)
- how to think critically and employ scientific literacy
Remember: a healthy amount of skepticism will keep you from falling into the wellness trap. Not everything needs to be cured or healed, especially if the methods are scientifically unsound.
Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified intuitive eating counselor, and journalist who has been covering food, nutrition, and health for more than 20 years. She is the author of two books, The Wellness Trap and Anti-Diet, and the producer and host of the podcasts Rethinking Wellness and Food Psych, which have helped tens of thousands of people around the world think critically about diet and wellness culture and develop more peaceful relationships with food. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times, SELF, BuzzFeed, Refinery29, Gourmet, Slate, the Food Network, and many other publications, and her work is regularly featured in national print and broadcast media. Learn more about Christy and her work at christyharrison.com
Follow Christy on Instagram: @chr1styharrison
Learn more about Christy's new book, The Wellness Trap: https://christyharrison.com/the-wellness-trap
And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @christyharrison
Mentioned in This Episode:
Fears About Food Additives (article written by Christy): https://christyharrison.ck.page/posts/fears-about-food-additives
Is Red Food Dye Dangerous? https://www.parentdata.org/p/is-red-food-dye-dangerous?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email
Thursday May 11, 2023
Thursday May 11, 2023
If you’ve ever struggled with binge eating, you know how difficult it is to stop. You might have tried everything from strict dieting to intuitive eating, wishing that something would help stop your battle with food for good. Mary has been on this journey herself after nearly a decade of struggling with bulimia and binge eating. In this episode, she shares the mindset that helped her FINALLY stop binge eating… forever. Tune in for some refreshing encouragement + a mindset shift for overcoming binge eating.
Remember: binge eating is symbolic of how we function overall. That frantic, compulsive energy around food translates into other areas too. Where else does this binge/ restrict/ self-hate pattern show up in your life?
If you’re interested in Mary’s 4-week program for conquering body-image struggles, breaking the diet cycle, and learning to love yourself, get it Beyond Body here for 75% off: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body