Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

#160: Dating in ED Recovery + Life as a Content Creator w/ Brittani Lancaster

ED recovery and body acceptance influencer Brittani Lancaster joins us for an honest conversation about online dating, working a 9-5 AND being a TikTok influencer, and what life is like as a content creator.

 

Remember: it’s okay to keep your personal passion separate from your intellectual passion. You are a multi-faceted human being.

 

Follow Britt on IG/ TikTok: @brittanilancaster

 

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @brittanilancaster

 

On that note, I'm going to take a dramatic sip of tea... Big Heart Tea, that is! My favorite certified organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I'm currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don't want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!

#159: How to Make Your Friendships Stronger

You might have friends that you think you’re close to, but are you really? Most people say they don’t want surface-level friendships, but I think because of capitalism, hustle culture, and the individualistic way in which we live, our friendships have inevitably become surface level even if both people are actually rather deep! It’s just hard to translate that depth to another person unless you know how to intentionally take it there. In this episode, Mary talks about how to make your existing friendships stronger.

 

You will learn about...

- the importance of having fulfilling friendships and how to foster them

- some friend date ideas that are much more fun that your typical lunch date

- tips for getting your friends together in a wholesome way

 

Remember: it takes a village for you to thrive. We are not meant to walk through life alone.

 

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

 

And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.  

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

 

Mentioned In This Episode... 
We’re Not Really Strangers card game: https://amzn.to/445WitT
Priya Parker’s, The Art of Gathering: https://amzn.to/3LAN29S

#158: Talking to Kids About Food, Fat, and Health w/ Psychotherapist Zoë Bisbing

If you have children in your life, whether they’re your own kids or perhaps your siblings/ nieces/ nephews/ students, then hopefully you want to create a body positive environment for them. Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is here to teach you HOW.

You will learn...

- what to say if a child asks, “Am I fat?”

- how to approach a conversation about “healthy eating” with kids

- what if your kid has a real health condition? how should parents approach their child’s food and weight then?

- what to say to stop family members from commenting on your child’s weight

Remember: building a body positive home starts with your own mindset first. As a parent, it’s important to heal your own beliefs about food, fat, weight, and health.  

Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and content creator. Zoë holds a Master of Social Work from New York University, a Bachelor of Arts from Smith College, and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. She is the director of Body-Positive Therapy NYC and Body-Positive Home (formerly The Full Bloom Project), an educational resource offering workshops and body image workouts for the whole family.  She loves teaching parents and professionals how to creatively build spaces where children of all ages, sizes, and gender expressions can naturally boost immunity to our appearance-obsessed culture and decrease risk for disordered eating and body image injury. Follow Zoë on Instagram: @mybodypositivehome

This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I'm currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @mybodypositivehome

#157: Wedding Reflections w/ my HUSBAND!

Mary’s HUSBAND is joining us for a special podcast episode sharing aaalllll the details of their wedding + how it feels to be married!

You’ll hear about…

• a fight they had during the early stages of wedding planning


• feelings before, during, and after the big day


• their favorite and funniest moments of the wedding


• how they approached friends, family, and finances


• what their backyard wedding looked like


• advice to couples considering having a wedding


• thoughts on pre-nups and what it means to be married

Remember: most people want to have a wedding, but aren’t clear on what marriage looks like. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page before going into a life-long commitment.

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode... 
The Art of Gathering (Book): https://amzn.to/3MCKHfE 
101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged (Book): https://amzn.to/3mn2IUG 
Mary’s Wedding Planning Notion Template: https://www.notion.so/maryscupoftea/Wedding-Planning-Template-f5c3e7b8d4d746ccabac42babc334669?pvs=4

#156: Compassionate Self-Talk

Mary is practicing compassionate self-talk- here’s how.

 

You will learn how to...

- be more conscious of the stories you’re telling yourself

- separate your struggles from your identity

- use word choice that’s more supportive and self-compassionate

 

Remember: your thoughts create your (internal) reality.

 

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.  

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

 

This episode is sponsored by my favorite tea: Big Heart Tea, that is! My favorite certified organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I'm currently drinking Big Heart Tea's signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don't want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!

 

#155: Stop Self-Sabotaging with This Quick Tip

Mary has been struggling with self-sabotage so she’s talking about it! Tune in to hear a quick way to stop self-sabotage in its tracks.

Remember: self-sabotage’s close cousin is perfectionism…

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.  


• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode... 
Ep. 50: How to Let Go of Control & Perfectionism: https://maryscupoftea.com/50-how-to-let-go-of-control-perfectionism/

#154: How to Manifest Opportunities in 3 Simple Steps

A short episode about how manifestation can be used in a practical way, since a lot of rhetoric on manifesting and the Law of Attraction can be a bit tone deaf… Tune in for Mary’s 3 simple steps for manifesting opportunities into your life.

Remember: the Law of Attraction is essentially a cognitive bias! You can use this brain hack to seek out positivity and goodness in your life, and thus, invite more of that in. Where your attention goes, energy flows and what you focus on grows.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.  


• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

 

#153: Eating Disorders Amongst Men with Bobby Kasmire

Eating disorders amongst is not talked about enough so in this episode, Mary is joined by fellow content creator Bobby Kasmire who vulnerably shares about his struggles with disordered eating.

You will learn...

• what it’s like struggling with Ed as a guy


• Bobby’s brilliant “2-week” rule which has helped him ease food anxiety


• how our Ed recovery is shaped and impacted by the internet

Remember: you are more than your Ed! There is a whole beautiful life waiting for you beyond recovery.

A recent college graduate who is currently creating content for over 300k+ followers across TikTok and Instagram, Bobby Kasmire shares his past and ongoing experiences in eating disorder recovery on social media in order to help break the stigma amongst men and eating disorders. He shares helpful tactics, tools, and thoughts that have helped him on his own journey to finding a better relationship with food.

Follow Bobby on Instagram and TikTok: @bobbykazz  

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @bobbykazz Listen to Mary on the Bobby PodKazz Podcast here:  Get Mary’s Self-Love Playlist: https://maryscupoftea.com/playlist

#152: Listen to This to Get Smarter with Blair Imani on Racism, Religion, Marriage, and Mental Health

The most wide-ranging conversation on this podcast! Activist and educator Blair Imani talks to us about topics spanning racism, religion, mental health, marriage, and so much more.

You will learn...

• how subtle racism can show up and what to do about it


• why Blair chose to convert to Islam


• how to feel your feelings AND move forward - ways to intentionally approach marriage with feminism at the forefront

If you made an anti-racist promise in 2020, this is your reminder that there is still tons of work to be done in 2023 and beyond.

Blair Imani (she/her) is the creator of the viral web series Smarter in Seconds. She is the LA Times Bestselling author of Read This to Get Smarter and Head of Education at Feminist for All. She is also the author of Making Our Way Home and Modern HERstory. Her scholarship spans intersectionality, gender studies, race and racism, sociology, and United States history. As a public speaker, Blair Imani has presented at universities including Oxford and Harvard. She serves on the Board of Directors for the Tegan and Sara Foundation. The New York Times praises Blair Imani’s unique ability to create “progressive lessons with vibrant visuals and a perky, quirky delivery.”  

Her work centers women and girls, global Black communities, and the LGBTQ+ community. As an educator, influencer, and semi-retired organizer, Blair Imani is dedicated to making the world less terrible and amplifying the voices and work of those fighting the good fight. Learn more about Blair Imani by visiting blairimani.com.

Follow Blair on Instagram: @blairimani 
Get Blair’s book, Read This to Get Smarter: https://blairimani.com/read-this-to-get-smarter

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @blairimani Mentioned In This Episode... Reclaiming Our Space by Feminista Jones: [http://reclaimingourspace.com

#151: 25 Things I’m Learning as I Make 25 Trips Around the Sun

Happy birthday to our host Mary Jelkovsky! In this solo episode, Mary shares 25 things she’s learning (key word!) about people, life, and self-love.

The best birthday gift is your listenership and being on this self-love journey together!

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And make sure to get Mary's books on self-love and if you already have them, please leave a review on Amazon or wherever you bought them from!

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.  


• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I'm currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!