Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

Ep. 210: Process > Result

What would you pursue regardless of the result? Let’s reflect on how being results-oriented removes the joy of the process. Though sometimes results do come, maybe we’d be happier if we were more immersed in the process itself.

You will learn how to...

• Trust your unique process and let go of the need for immediate results
• Embrace activities that bring joy without a focus on outcome
• Shift your mindset to find peace in the present moment

Remember: "Trust your process, release the result."

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#209: The Cure for Burnout is NOT Self-Care w/ Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A.

When you find yourself hitting the wall of EXHAUSTION, you could be experiencing burnout. What most people don’t know is that our biological stress cycle is not equipped to deal with our modern-day demands. Luckily, there is a cure for burnout and Amelia Nagoski is here to share it with us.

You will learn...

• what causes burnout (and the only CURE for it)
• how to actually “listen to your body”
• how the stress cycle works
• the difference between burnout, depression, and self-sabotage

Remember: When you think you need more grit, what you actually need is help.

Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A. (it stands for Doctorate of Musical Arts) is the co-author, with her sister Emily, of the New York Times bestselling Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle and the Burnout workbook. Her job is to run around waving her arms and making funny noises and generally doing whatever it takes to help singers get in touch with their internal experience.

Get Amelia and Emily Nagoski’s book, Burnout: https://amzn.to/449tPUC And the Burnout Workbook Audiobook with original songs by Amelia: https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Workbook-Advice-Exercises-Unlock/dp/B0CD2S9CBF

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Mentioned In This Episode... 5-part series on how to listen to your body: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-58-how-to-listen-to-your-body

#208: Feeling Conflicted? Listen to this.

Feeling conflicted can be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to hold you back. Let’s explore how to cope with conflicting thoughts and emotions across different areas of life, from body image to career decisions, and even current events.

You will learn how to...

• navigate conflicting thoughts and feelings
• make decisions more confidently
• make peace with all the different parts of you

Remember: "The whole is greater than the sum of its parts." ~ Aristotle

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#207: The Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Stop Giving a Shit w/ Kara Loewentheil, J.D.

Women are put into all sorts of boxes i.e. sexist roles and expectations on who we “should” be. Life coach Kara Loewentheil is back to talk some sense into us and teach us how to break these internalized thought patterns.

You will learn...

• what “thought work” is and how it can help your mindset
• how to break out of the “virgin/whore” + “maiden/mother/crone” paradigms
• why “positive thinking” usually doesn’t work long-term (and what helps instead)
• how our sexist socializations project onto the women around us

Toward the end, Kara coaches Mary on some of the conflicting thoughts she’s having about her career.

Remember: the only way to stop caring about what other people think about you is to start caring more about what YOU think about you.

Kara Loewentheil, J.D. is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought, and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone (50 million downloads and counting!).

Her first book, Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher’s Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap.

A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, Kara did what every Ivy League lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach! Eight years after she stepped down as director of a think tank at Columbia Law School, she has created a multiple-7-figure business, taught millions of women how to identify the ways that sexist socialization impacts their brains, and helped women all over the world rewire their thought patterns to liberate themselves from the inside out.

Follow Kara on Instagram: @karaloewentheil Get Kara’s book, Take Back Your Brain here: https://amzn.to/3Wo3W1g

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Mentioned in this episode… Ep. 36: Feminism, Body-Image, and Unfcking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mi1O4iimYDJ2oT6PlY0nG?si=6a093c1379304c30

#206: The Easiest Journaling Prompt Ever

Mary shares a 3-part journaling prompt that can help you gain deeper self-awareness regarding your true needs and desires. Use this simple, practical prompt anytime to connect with different aspects of yourself.

You will learn how to...

• Tap into a reliable source of personal insight
• Clear your mental chatter to understand what you really want
• Access your heartfelt, soul-centered intuitive guidance

Remember: "To hear your heart, you need time, stillness, silence, play, and surrender."

Make sure to get Mary's books 2 on self-love:

• The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

• 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471

#205: Overcoming Mom-Shame + Postpartum Anxiety w/ Cameron Rogers

May is mental health month and MOMS need more mental health support. Today we’re joined by Cameron Rogers, a content creator who openly shares about the ins and outs of motherhood.

In this episode, Cameron shares…
- why she doesn’t share her kids names and faces online
- what postpartum anxiety feels like
- how motherhood gave her a new level of self-confidence
- advice for new moms

Remember: if you’re anxious about becoming a mom, you’re definitely not alone. But just like everything in life, each phase of motherhood is temporary.

Founder and Host of the Freckled Foodie & Friends podcast, Cameron Rogers (@cameronoaksrogers) utilizes her unfiltered voice and humor to carve out a safe space on the internet for mothers. Her podcast, produced by Dear Media, has amassed over 2 Million downloads and features genuine sit-down conversations discussing wellness, mental health, motherhood, and pop culture. She passionately sheds light on her experiences with pregnancy, postpartum depression, and the often unspoken or overlooked trials and tribulations of navigating the journey of motherhood. Recently, Cameron has extended her community to a Substack titled Fill Your Cup about how she’s keeping her cup full amidst motherhood.

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#204: Feeling Lonely? Listen to this.

Loneliness is the #1 contributing factor to the mental health crisis we’re currently experiencing so we MUST talk about it for Mental Health Awareness Month.

If or when you feel lonely, remember that it’s not a personal deficiency. It’s a systemic issue in our modern-day, industrialized world. The cure for loneliness is not to become a social butterfly, but rather to re-shape the way you interact with people.

In this episode, you will learn...
- why more and more people, especially Americans, are feeling lonely
- how to create a culture of connection with your friends and family
- the missing KEY to feeling less lonely

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#203: Coping with Getting Ghosted and Family Estrangement w/ Minaa B., LMSW

It’s been almost 3 years since Mary has talked to her father. Now she’s processing that familial estrangement in real time with the help of Minaa B, a licensed social worker and proponent for psychological safety. The conversation also leads into the phenomenon of ghosting; why people do it and how to cope with the lack of closure.

You will learn...

• what constitutes estranged family and how surprisingly common it is
• why people GHOST and how to cope with ghosting in relationships
• the important difference between rules vs. boundaries
• ways to grieve and find closure for abrupt endings

Remember: closure is akin to forgiveness in that it can only come from within.

Minaa B. is a licensed social worker, mental health educator, and author of Owning Our Struggles. She is also the founder of a mental health consulting practice where she collaborates with organizations to help them develop psychological safety. Additionally, Minaa is the host of the Verywell Mind podcast, runs an advice column for Cosmopolitan magazine called Free Therapy, and is also a member of the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez.  An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in various media outlets, including Red Table Talk, Peace of Mind with Taraji, Oprah Daily, Katie Couric Media, and more. Minaa currently resides in New York City.

Follow Minaa on Instagram: @minaa_b Get Minaa's new book Owning Our Struggles: https://amzn.to/4b1GDOU

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#202: Dealing with Criticism

If you’re human, then you’ve probably received criticism. Though it can be quite unpleasant, your ability to encounter criticism and not let it affect you is directly proportionate to both your self-esteem and self-worth.

In this episode, you will learn...
- the 2 different types of criticisms
- what makes certain criticism hurt so badly (and how to not let it affect you) -
3 questions to ask yourself before listening to other people’s opinions

Remember: don’t choose a stranger’s criticism over your intuition, your values, and your heart.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Mary’s Body-Image TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg?si=P3kfRMBBdFgTMOAI
Mary’s IG reel that went viral and got criticized: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5l6-_fvZCS/?igsh=ZDJrYjA0aXpzM2ww
The 4 Agreements book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1878424319/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_AJC459ZTT9B1T36FX5ZR?linkCode=ml2&tag=maryscupoft0b-20

#201: Tips for Thrifting and Vintage Shopping w/ Virginia Chamlee

Today we’re talking THRIFTING! If you’re anything like Mary, you love secondhand stuff and the unique joy it brings to your home. Artist and collector Virginia Chamlee joins us to share her tips, tricks, and secrets to scoring vintage furniture.

You will learn...
- how thrifting builds confidence
- tips for finding valuable vintage furniture and decor
- mistakes people make when they shop secondhand

Virginia Chamlee is a writer, artist, entrepreneur, and avid collector of vintage. She is the author of Big Thrift Energy, a manual for finding beautiful (often valuable) pieces of design for pennies on the dollar, and a source of inspiration for those looking to collect or style vintage in their own homes. A lifelong collector of vintage design, Virginia has spent years scouring thrift stores, estate sales, antique malls and flea markets for truly incredible, museum-worthy finds (like that Goyard trunk she found for $90, or the floor-length Christian Dior cape scored at Goodwill for $9). She believes even the most high-quality design should be accessible for everyone, and that the antiques industry is long overdue for a shakeup (and maybe a little more, well... energy).

An accomplished artist, her paintings and prints are available via exclusive partnerships with Chairish, Artfully Walls and Anthropologie. Virginia is also a professional writer with bylines at PEOPLE, Buzzfeed, Eater, Bustle, and others.

Follow Virginia on Instagram: @vchamlee
Get Virginia's book, Big Thrift Energy here: https://amzn.to/3V7zAPY

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